Spring Break has finally come to an end. It was an alright time; I didn't do anything very exciting, but I at least didn't have any classes that I had to go to. There was one aspect of the break that I truly wish I hadn't experienced. In everyone's life there are special relationships that are formed that mold and shape the individual, either for the good or the bad. I have had a few of such relationships. Over the break, I learned that one of these realtionships is on the brink of falling completely a part. Already, it is almost nonexistent. Isn't this some great to discover on your vacation?! One of the greatest friendships that I have ever had is deteriorating right before my eyes and there is not much that I can do about it. I knew that something was going in November, but I thought things were being resolved. When I came home for Christmas, the parties involved seem to be alright with everything. Yes, things were a little different but there didn't seem to be any hard feelings. The story is completely different now. Now, I can't talk with one without being afraid of offending the other. One problem with this situation is that no one is willing to discuss the problem. I tried throughout the break to somehow get the problem out in the open and resolved, but no one really wanted to. This really hurt me. None of the people in this great friendship was willing to save it; they are willing to brush aside one of my life-changing friendships for petty reasons. This really disappointed me and put a huge damper on my week off. I went through much grief, sadness, and pain last week because of this. I thought I had this friendship to come home to, but I was severly disappointed to see it gone.
UPDATE (MAR 19)
I felt that I needed to update this post in response to a comment left earlier. I just want to make clear that this post does reflect my problem. This friendship includes me, too. This three-part friendship of mine does (believe or not) include me. This friendship, in combination with others, has been the basis of my development and growth over the last couple of years. Without this friendship, I would certianly not be the same person that I am today. If you feel that this friendship does not include me, I am sorry, but you are wrong. This tripartite relationship has been a fundamental part of my life and has been one that I have valued dearly since the beginning. Also, to read my ideas on what a blog is suppose to be and what it shouldn't, click here. I also want to thank the many others that have left comments of compassion and support; I truly do appreciate your kind words during hard times such as these. Thank you so much!
Shawn, thanks for your comment on my blog...it sounds like we're going through similar situations. :-/ It's just hard when you think friendships are so solid they can withstand anything, but they begin to crumble before your eyes. That was a really sad sentence. Anyway, you are trying your best and doing what you can. Just pray about it and I'm sure things will work out as they are supposed to. :)
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ReplyDeleteHey! It'll get better! Really it will! I'm sorry that it's hurting you so bad! I didnt realize that it was this hard on you! Anyway, forget about it. Life goes on! I love ya!
I think it's sad that you respect your friends so little that you advertise their problems on the internet for anyone to read. If their friendship has changed or ended you need to respect them enough to accept that. I know it's hard to accept change, but change happens and there is not anything we can do about it. I was just suprised and dissapointed at the blog and the blatant disrespect of the parties involved.
ReplyDeleteI find it sad that your friends problems are advertised for the whole internet. If two people's friendship changes or ends, you should have the respect to accept that. I understand you may not like it, but it's their friendship, not yours. I was surprised by this blog's sad use of friend's problems to fill space.
ReplyDeleteDo we have guilty feelings here from someone, as I see on your blog, I don't see one single name mentioned. It is your right to put whatever you want on your blog and if someone feels that it offends them, then surely they must be guilty. If they were true friends then they would be trying to resolve the problem if they felt this was all about them. True friends will try to make amends and not give it up as a lost cause. Of couse, some people may not have true friends.
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